Not feeling pleasure in intimacy? People-pleasing could be a factor.

If you often focus energy outwards to make sure people around you are happy, it can be difficult to then receive from others and bring attention inwards to your own pleasure. Yet, under the pressure to keep the peace, you may feel that intimacy becomes a performance rather than a connective moment you genuinely enjoy. Without spending time exploring your own desire and sensations, it can be unclear how to change this and guide partners. In this talk, we’ll cover how people-pleasing shows up and how to gradually shift out of it towards being more present in your own experience. Remember: The difference between “pleasure” and “pleaser” is “u”!